The ten WORST things to say to a person who is grieving

1)  At least she/he lived a long life, many people die young.
2)  He is in a better place.
3)  She brought this on herself.
4)  There is a reason for everything.
5)  Aren't you over him yet, he has been dead for quite some time now.
6)  You can still have another child.
7)  She was such a good person, God wanted her to be with Him.
8)  I know how you feel.
9)  She did what she came here to do and it was her time to go.
10) Be strong.

And when I was a child the WORST thing that people said to me often was:
DON'T CRY.   Seriously, that was the most common thing said to me when my 16 year old
brother died.  I was ten and I was careful not to upset anyone with my tears.

The ten BEST things to say to a person who is grieving!

1)  I am so sorry for your loss
2)  I wish I had the right words, just know that I care.
3)  I don't know how you feel, but I am here to help in anyway I can.
4) You and your loved one will be in my thoughts and prayers.
5) My favorite memory of your loved one is...
6) I am always just a phone call away.
7) Give a hug instead of saying anything.
8) We all need help at times like this.  I am here for you.
9) I am usually up early or late, if you need anything.
10) Saying nothing, just BE with the person